We know there’s a lot of planning that goes into your wedding and so it needs a lot of thought between when you’re engaged and when you walk down the aisle. But believe it or not, it is possible to be too obsessed with your wedding. Here are the top 10 signs that you are too obsessed.
You ignore the ‘no wedding talk’ rule
You’ve made a rule for yourself around friends and family that you won’t talk about your wedding non-stop but you don’t stick to it. Trust us, no one is as excited as you are about your own wedding, and just as everyone gets bored listening to someone go on and on about their new boyfriend, their work stress or how much studying they’re doing, your friends and family will get tired of hearing about your flower dilemmas and cake tasting pretty quickly too. Tone it down
You have no decisions to show for your research
You’ve been obsessed with looking at different flowers, viewing venues and tasting cakes. These appointments and internet searches pretty much take up all your free time. However, you still have decide on the flowers, and the venue and the cake, not to mention, the invites, the menu and your dress. A clear-cut sign you’re obsessed with your wedding is if all your browsing and perusals have no end, i.e. you can’t make a single decision because you can’t stop looking! The easiest way to stop this is to start making decisions and deleting any massive inspiration boards that are no longer relevant.
You’re banning your own choices from your friends’ weddings
You’re definitely obsessed with your own wedding if you’re trying to verbally trademark every colour scheme and style you choose. You do not have creative control over the colour mint, or vintage-style place cards, or even that dessert table you wanted. Banning your friends from taking any inspiration from your wedding is very Bridezilla behaviour and will cost you friends quickly. Take it as a compliment instead! Didn’t you know imitation is the highest form of flattery?
You don’t give your bridesmaids any jobs
It’s important not to overburden your bridesmaids, but you have to give them something to do. Are you so obsessed with making everything perfect that you want to control it all and do everything yourself? If you start thinking about organising your own hen, take a major step back. Your bridesmaids aren’t just there to stand there in a dress you picked for them. They’re there to help you plan your wedding, and there are plenty of jobs you can trust them with.
You’re skipping social events for Pinterest browsing
We know. Your social calendar just isn’t what it used to be, not just because you’re saving for your most expensive event, but because you actually have to set aside time to plan the wedding. However, you should think about how much you used to go out and the last time you saw your friends. If it’s been three months, or you’ve turned down four invitations from them because you’ve stayed in for wedding plans, it’s time to check yourself. You still need to socialise and if you want your friends to actually come to your wedding you should still be socialising with them.
You’re having décor-related nightmares
It’s the same every time. Your dreams reflect what’s going on in your life. During highly stressful work periods, you often have nightmares about the expense reports that didn’t get filled out or that email you never sent. It’s no different when it comes to weddings. If you’re too obsessed with your wedding, your dreams will definitely tell you. If you’re having nightmares about flowers and cakes, it’s time to take some stress relief measures.
All your social media posts are wedding-obsessed
You haven’t posted anything on Twitter or Facebook that isn’t related to your wedding in months. Pretty soon, your friends will start blocking you from their newsfeed. Who wants to see a load of wedding posts if they’re not getting married or at the very least helping someone else plan a wedding? And chances are, very few of your followers care about the drama you had when choosing your wedding band. If this is the case, you’re too obsessed. Step away from the computer.
You don’t have a wedding-free day with your groom
There is a lot to do for your wedding and a lot of decisions have to be made with the help of your groom. But that doesn’t mean it has to take over your lives as a couple. Remember, you said yes to the marriage, not the wedding. You should aim to have an hour every day with your groom or at the very least one completely wedding-free day that you can enjoy together, sans wedding talk, planning or choosing.
You haven’t read anything other than bridal magazines in six months
Your recreational reading has turned into bridal sites, wedding magazines and your television time has been taken up with Don’t Tell the Bride and Say Yes to the Dress. This is when you have to stop. You have to think of wedding planning as a second job. Looking at invites and making table plans don’t count as relaxation and you need to allot separate time to chill out after a busy day. If your downtime is nothing but bridal shows, magazines and sites, you’re definitely too obsessed with wedding planning.
Your budget is getting out of hand with too many ideas.
You’re probably obsessed with your wedding if your budget just keeps building and building from all the ideas you keep adding to the list. It’s important to stick rigidly to your budget once you have one. Don’t let yourself run away with all the stimulating ideas on Pinterest and all the magazines you are looking at. Figure out what you want and stick to it. If you’re too obsessed with your wedding you’ll lose sight of what you actually need to do and what you can afford.
- Jenny Darmody
Image credits: Bridesmaids: Weddings Ideas Mag | Bride and bridesmaid: Les Fleurs | Boutonnieres: Pinterest | Cocktails: Delish| Bouquets: Wedd Book