We all know about the traditions that come with weddings but that doesn’t mean we have to abide by them. In fact there are plenty of rules we can afford to throw out completely. Here are the top five wedding rules we can definitely give a rest.

Grey bridal dress

The dress has to be white

In actual fact, white really doesn’t suit that many people, so why on earth would you settle for the colour on your big day if you don’t want to? If you would like to keep certain traditions, then stick with the white, but show a glimpse of your creative side by adding a splash of colour; don’t be afraid to fashion a cardigan, a colourful pair of shoes or some statement jewellery. The same rule applies to those who say the bride must wear a white veil; the truth is, there are no rules when it comes to your day. A veil is not to everyone’s taste and the longer the veil, the more it gets in the way of the dancing and fun to be had. Let simplicity do the talking by choosing an elegant headpiece, a chic tiara or simply letting your hair flow freely.

First look

The couple can’t see each other before the ceremony

This superstition has long been proven to be just that and there’s absolutely no reason you can’t break this rule. Seeing each other before the ceremony will calm any pre-wedding jitters either of you have and is a great opportunity for the photographer to capture some first-look moments of you and your hubby-to-be.

Brides-men

Gender specific roles

Think your bridesmaids can only be women? Think again! The modern thinking bride will laugh at this tradition and place her male best friend by her side at the alter if she so wishes. Your VIPs should be the people you are closest to and wish to spend every pre-wedded memory with and if that so happens to be a guy, then make him your brides-man.

Bride walking solo

The walk down the aisle

The age-old tradition goes, that the bride’s father walks her down the aisle, as if symbolising his permission for the groom to marry his daughter. It can be a beautiful moment between father and daughter, but personal situations differ from bride to bride so this may not be an option. If you are particularly close to a certain family member or friend, then it’s perfectly acceptable to have that person walk with you. Don’t have anyone in mind? Make the journey solo and enjoy every eye in the room on you as you look your very best.

Mismatched bridesmaids

Matching bridesmaid dresses

One size, style or colour does most certainly not fit all so squeezing each bride into the same dress that suits just one of five of your women will not make for a very happy bridal shower. Choosing a different dress for each of your bridesmaids is the done thing nowadays so don’t be afraid to branch out and create some diversity. Choose one recurring theme within the dresses, such as era, fabric, colour or length and the rest is yours to experiment with.

- Michelle Storey

Image credits: Grey dress: Angelina Androsova Photography | First look: Park Road Photography via Apple Brides | Bridesmen: One Love Photography via Green Wedding Shoes | Bride: Joyeuse Photography | Mismatched bridesmaids: James Moes