Yes, brides can be annoying. Sometimes they go full on bridezilla and it’s enough to give bridesmaids shivers. However, that doesn’t mean bridesmaids are allowed to behave any way they want. It is a bride’s special day and bridesmaids should be on hand to help any way they can. There are things that bridesmaids do that annoy even the calmest of brides.
Being MIA
Bridesmaids should not be expected to be there 24/7 for the bride to be from the moment they’re asked to the moment she walks down the aisle. We get that. However, being missing in action when you’re needed is one of the most annoying things a bridesmaid can do. Bridesmaids do need to reliable and brides can depend on your help if you flake on appointments before the wedding or disappear on the day of. If a bride needs to constantly ask where one of her bridesmaids is, then it’s not a good sign.
Complaining
Whether it’s about the dress she picked for you, how much work you have to do or when the appointments are, complaining about things will wreck the bride’s head. If you really think you’re being overrun with tasks or have a genuine problem with the dress, consider having a quiet word with the bride about it. If you don’t want to say it to her, think about why you don’t and then consider the possibility that you might just be moaning for no good reason. No bride wants to hear whiney bridesmaids, especially when it’s just for the sake of it.
Drama with other bridesmaids
The last thing brides need is to settle differences and drama between the bridesmaids. Don’t create drama in the bridal party. The bridesmaids need to get along and be able to work together for helping the bride and planning the hen party. If you don’t get on with one or more of the bridesmaids, make a plan to act civilly or address any issues straight away before you get too far in and the bride starts to notice sniping. Sorting out bitchy drama is the last thing the bride needs in the run up to her wedding day.
Being hungover
Treat your bridesmaid duties like a job. Don’t show up to dress fittings, DIY tasks and especially the morning of the wedding hungover. You are expected to be bright eyed and bushy tailed for all of you bridesmaid duties, not headachy, nauseous and falling asleep. This is particularly important the night before the wedding. Of course you can have a drink or two the night before the wedding, but don’t go wild and leave yourself feeling less than your top self on the day of the wedding. After all, you’ll be working for a good amount the wedding day.
Not helping
Your job is to assist the bride as much as you can. There are few things more annoying to a bride than statue bridesmaids. The bride isn’t asking you to be a bridesmaid so that you can stand up there with her in a pretty dress, although that is part of it. When you’re asked to be a bridesmaid, you’re asked to help the bride throughout the wedding planning process so not helping is pretty much the definition of a bad bridesmaid.
Giving opinions that weren’t asked for
The bride will want your help, like we said. That might include getting your opinion on certain things, but other things might not require your opinion. If the bride doesn’t ask for your opinion on something, don’t give it, especially if it’s negative. The bride who spent weeks pouring over her bouquet will not appreciate you asking her would orchids not have been better. The bride will find it annoying if you interject with your opinions about what you think is better or what you would do. It’s her wedding, not yours. Only give your opinion if you’re asked for it.
Taking things personally
While we’re on the subject of opinions, don’t take it personally if the bride asks for your opinion or advice and doesn’t take it. You might just be a soundboard to bounce ideas off, or you might be one of many that she’s trying to narrow down. Either way, don’t make the bride feel like she has to walk on eggshells around you, or worse, make her feel like she can’t even ask for your advice in case she hurts your feelings when she ignores you. Don’t take it personally if she doesn’t take your opinion on board because it’s not personal.
- Jenny Darmody
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