We know we’ve told you to cool it with the bridezilla act and we mean it. You shouldn’t overload your bridesmaids or refuse to compromise on anything. However, if Gone Girl’s Amy has taught us anything, it’s that we can sometimes spend too much time trying to act like ‘the cool girl’ that we forget there are some things we’re allowed to give out about some things.
Don’t spend so much time trying to avoid bridezilla that you risk compromising on things that are really important to you. Nor should you spend so much time worrying about turning into a diva that you end up not talking to your chief bridesmaid about how she’s missing in action almost all the time. Yes, there are some occasions where it’s okay to be a bit of a bridezilla.
When your bridesmaids aren’t helping at all
Yes, we’ve warned you about overloading them with jobs, talking about your wedding non-stop and expecting them to be free at the drop of a hat. Now that you’re aware of those pitfalls, it’s time to put the foot down. There are some tasks that the bridesmaids really should take care of and it’s ok to ask them to do these and expect them to be done. It’s also ok to expect them to be at an appointment with you when you told them about it well in advance. If your bridesmaids aren’t helping you, talk to them about it. It doesn’t make you a bridezilla if you’re feeling neglected.
When one of your vendors lets you down
It’s not too much to ask your vendors to be there when they’re supposed to be. Once contracts are signed you should be allowed be expect them to show up. If disaster strikes, it’s their job to solve it for you with little upset or difference. If something happens to the wedding car on the morning of the big day, they should have a contingency plan in place for you. If the problem causes you any stress or if their contingency plan is not up to scratch for you, make sure you let them know. At the very least, they should offer you a discount for the mistake on their part. If you’re not happy, don’t pretend you are.
When your family try to take over
Family issues can be tough to deal with in the run up to your wedding. Your family might want to intervene on the guest list, the seating plan, the decorations and even the ceremony. Meanwhile, you have to remember your in-laws. Your mother-in-law might want to be more involved and your sisters-in-law might expect to be bridesmaids. It’s essential that you keep your foot firmly down about what you want. After all, it’s your wedding, not theirs. There are somethings you might be willing to come around to, especially to make your families happy. However, it’s not bridezilla-y to want things your way for your wedding.
When something is not done the way you asked for it
Your vendors are there to make your day special. Not to mention the fact that you’re paying them for their service. You don’t have to go full on ‘screaming bridezilla’, but you don’t have to act like everything’s fine either. If you’re not happy with something make sure you speak up. Don’t let preconceived notions about a bridezilla attitude prevent you from expecting the service you expected.
When your groom refuses to help
If you told your groom from the beginning that you don’t want him to do much more than write his speech and show up on the day, then you can’t really blame him for staying out of your way. However, he should still come to your aid when you ask for help. Worse again if you both agreed to plan the wedding together and now he’s totally ignoring the important vendor research and music choices. Put that foot down once more and talk to him about getting involved a bit more. You can’t do it all by yourself after all. Here are a few other ways you can get him involved.
- Jenny Darmody
Image credits: Bride 1: Pinterest | Bride 2: Maggie May Bridal | Bridesmaids: Pinterest | Bride and groom: Pinterest