We’ve already warned you about what no one tells you on your honeymoon, but we want to take a closer look at the fights you may have with your beloved and how to avoid them. What’s that, we hear you say? “We’ll be just married and on the holiday of a lifetime, we won’t fight.” Well, it doesn’t happen to everyone, but you might be surprised. Don’t worry though, it’s not the end of the world.
The unexpected disaster
When something goes wrong it’s easy to get agitated with one another. The plane could be delayed, your room could have been double booked, or there are thunder storms all week and the beach is closed. Sometimes you can’t prepare for disasters like these but that doesn’t mean you have to fall out over them. Try not to get snippy with your other half on your honeymoon when things are happening that are out of both of your control.
Honeymoon sex-pectations
As we mentioned before, couples can have high expectations when it comes to sex on the wedding night and every night of the honeymoon. When it inevitably doesn’t happen every single night (hey, we’re only human) there can be some worry and tension about the fact that you should be having constant sex on your honeymoon. The truth is that is not the case, and no couple should measure themselves up to any pre-conceived notions they may have about how much action you should be getting. No one wants to feel like it’s only happening because they think it should be.
Opposites don’t attract
Chances are you’ve been on a holiday with your beloved before, so you know what kind of activities they’re into and what holiday they like to have. You should prepare for this accordingly before you book it. Just because you want to lie on the beach all day, doesn’t mean he wants to. Opposite desires on your honeymoon can lead to problems, so just prepare for what you both want before you go. It’s important to compromise so that you’re both happy. You might even decide to split your honeymoon in half and pick a destination each, but if you do you should still avoid going over the top with activates you know your partner won’t enjoy.
Being constantly together
We know you’re probably thinking, “It’s our honeymoon, why would we want to be apart?” But sometimes a little break is a good idea, even if it’s just for one afternoon. This is a particularly good idea if, like we said, you both have different interests. Split up for the day and go do the activities you really want to do and meet up for a nice romantic meal. Sometimes, even if you’ve done it before, being with each other 24/7 in a different country can lead to petty annoyances that won’t exist if you take the slightest break from one another.
Not having a plan
We’re not saying you have to draw up a whole minute-by-minute itinerary for your honeymoon, but it is good to head over there with some knowledge of what you plan on doing. Culture activities and other things might need to be booked in advance and it’s a good idea to know what you want to get out of your honeymoon to make the most out of it. Sometimes not having a plan can lead to indecisiveness and unnecessary griping at one another. Another thing to bear in mind is to not get hung up on said plan. Making a plan before you go is important but so is a spot of spontaneity.
Other stress-inducing events
Airports, heavy luggage, jetlag, lack of sleep, uncomfortable beds or the odd bad meal. There are countless little parts of a honeymoon and holidays in general that can make even the most easy-going person get a bit stressed and short-tempered. It’s important to keep an eye out for these things and try your best not to get snappy at one another. Get plenty of sleep, arrive at the airport early, plan your trip to your accommodation accordingly and maybe ask for that extra pillow if you feel you need it. Just don’t sweat the small stuff.
- Jenny Darmody
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